Overthinking Anyone?

Do you ever find yourself awake at 3 AM thinking about that embarrassing thing you did ten years ago? If no, you may find this ridiculous but if you’re someone like me you’ll understand the torment! I constantly suffer from obsessive thinking/worrying and I have to say it is exhausting!

I’m not sure why I worry the way I do. I’m always so concerned how I come across to others (so I guess I care too much about what people think), but it’s not that I have no confidence in myself I just hate when my character is judged. I like to think I’m a nice person that can do no wrong, but of course this isn’t true for anyone. We’ve all done things we aren’t proud of, whether it was simply embarrassing or just a mistake, but for me it stays with me.

I remember one time I was on a school trip to Prague. I didn’t know anyone on the trip but I always wanted to go to Prague so I decided to go by myself and meet new people. It ended up being the worst trip ever! I did love the city and the things we did but the people were just terrible and I felt very stressed around them. Whenever I would talk to someone they would pretty much ignore me and hang out with their other friends which I found odd as most people from our school were very inclusive. Not only was I ignored but I was teased for making conversations. They said that Canadians made them uncomfortable because we talk too much. In my defense (in this particular instance) we were at a restaurant at a table for two hours. Was I supposed to sit across from them and be silent the whole time? I was just trying to be friendly by asking them where they were from and what courses they were taking in school. I don’t think that’s being that nosy! I felt so humiliated! To top it all off our bus got in an accident on the way back from Prague. The bus drive went on the wrong exit and decided to back up on the freeway instead of turning around at the next exit! A car ended up hitting us. We were all okay but it held us up for three hours and we almost missed our ferry! The icing on the cake was when I tried to get some sleep. I was trying to lay down across two bus seats and felt the seatbelt tighten on my stomach. Due to the tight belt I let out a fart that was definitely heard by some of my bus mates and I almost died.

This trip was three years ago and I still think about how embarrassing it was! I am never going to see those people again and I feel so stressed thinking about it. Now that is definitely ridiculous.

Lately though whenever I find myself going down the overthinking road of doom I try these tips to help calm my worried state.

  1. Talk it out, or write it out. It helps me to vocalize my feeling so it doesn’t consume me. If you don’t want to tell anyone you can always write in a journal to clear your head. It always does the trick.
  1. Self-assure. Tell yourself “it’s okay what happened”. Learn from it next time if it was a mistake or if it was embarrassing find a way to laugh about it and move on. If you cannot self-assure trying getting reassurance from someone else but don’t keep rehashing.
  1. Distract yourself. When you start to have those thoughts try to think of something else or do an activity that de-stresses you. Working out or reading always helps me.
  1. Find common humanity. Remember everyone has these moments in life! You are not alone!

I can’t stress (lol), the last one more. We all will commit stupid embarrassing things sometimes. It’s going to happen, it’s part of life. But we have to learn to be kind to ourselves and move on from them or else we will not be able to lead a happy life. Only you have the power to fight these feelings and see yourself for who you really are, a good person. If you have done bad things, you can always start fresh and make amends. It’s never too late. So let’s stop obsessing and start de-stressing!

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An Ode to my favourite TV show

Okay, I admit it. I’m a TV fanatic. I love it all, from the cheesy Disney channel shows to AMCs walking dead…there is something just enthralling about television and how it can pull your mind body and spirit into every moment. It’s amazing to think of all the writers out there who can tell a story and have it be conveyed so well that it just brings you to tears or extreme happiness. Whatever feelings arise, it always feels like I am somewhat part of it all, when in reality I’m just sitting at home alone in front of my flat screen. It may sound ridiculous, and you may be wondering this girl has no life, but in fact yes I do have a life! I graduated university, have a full time job, have experienced meaningful relationships and have travelled the world. I know what’s out there and the possibilities that await any person.  But of course some things can’t always be a reality, and life can sometimes get in the way of accomplishing our dreams or seeing possibilities for ourselves. It’s our imagination that gets us through each day. Thinking of the what ifs, even if it always stays imaginary. That’s why television can be uplifting. It puts imaginary into somewhat of a reality. Of course it’s fictional, but in that moment it seems real, and it gives insight into your own life and what you want.

We all have that one TV we are obsessed with (unless of course you hate TV). My obsession for the past eight years has been the Vampire Diaries. I know what you must be thinking, but hear me out.

Although, everyone always teases that I watch the Vampire Diaries, 80% of people that make fun have not seen a single episode, and fail to realize that the show was always in the top ten for most popular TV shows even during hiatus. It may seem like a cheesy typical vampire flick (which it is) but it also has amazing writers, cast and character development. It helps too that the cast and crew are the most spirited and hilarious group I’ve ever encountered!

But anyway, this show commenced its first season fall of 2009 and since it was a CW show I definitely tuned in to see what it was all about. It starts off as dark and mysterious…a vampire returning to his hometown, and a lonely grieving girl who has lost a great deal. It then continues and you get to know the charm of their town Mystic Falls, and all the people in the community. There was a lot of buzz on how the show would be received, as the books written by L.J. Smith were very popular, and the characters had a particular look and feel. Nina Dobrev may not have been blonde as everyone wished, but she sure blew everyone away when she auditioned for the part of Elena Gilbert. And soon, the others were cast and were all brilliant. I was always curious as to what went on when brainstorming for each episode, and who had the final decision on every snarky remark Damon Salvatore made, or hilarious commentary by Caroline Forbes, but after watching episode after episode it always drew me in more and more.

In 2009, I had to take time off from university and I felt that maybe I would not be able to accomplish my goals in life. When I moved home, I couldn’t work, or go out much because of extreme exhaustion, and all I had that I could do was rest and obviously watch TV. So  since I was home by the TV so much I decided tuned into something new. Watching the vampire diaries pulled me out of my depression and gave me something to look forward to every week.

As the seasons continued, we are introduced to many plot-lines and cliff hangers. There is tons of heartbreak and loss, but the characters only grow stronger from it. They all learn to lean on each other, and they are always there for one another. I always wished I could experience such powerful relationships like theirs, but now that I have lived abroad and now have moved home I realize I have found that. I have friends that will be there no matter what, and have found love many people dream of. The love I experienced may not have been a passionate love triangle between two brothers (swoon) but it was just as consuming and really has shaped who I am today. The characters in the show have lost so much, but yet instead of dwelling on the past and things they have lost, they moved forward and measure their life in love and sometimes even throw in a joke or two about their hardships.

Not only does the show focus on powerful relationships, but it also represents how the impossible can be possible. Every day I dream of possibilities for myself, and maybe I may not be able to achieve every dream I have, but sometimes what seems impossible can sometimes become reality. It’s about how you look at it and how you go about it. You can really achieve some form of your dreams if you really try. Even though the Vampire Diaries it is just a tv show (and probably anyone who would have to go through what they went through would have to be admitted) I still admire their perseverance, how they conquer their fears, achieve their goals and see the world for what it is. Once you see what is right in front of you, the possibilities are endless.

It’s now been 8 years since the Vampire Diaries premiered and now this week it comes to an end. I will surely miss the weekly antics of the cast, crew and of course the dedicated fans who made the past 8 years so entertaining!

The next time you feel down in the dumps due to whatever life has thrown your way, tune into your favourite show or movie. Even though most often what you’re watching is fictional, embrace it. It will help you to discover what you’re truly passionate about and what you aspire to be. When you get excited about a particular plot or identify with a particular character ask yourself why. It may seem silly because it’s just a TV show, but it can really open your eyes to creativity, positivity, new relationships and experiences; all with the click of the remote.

How to be Interesting

Let me start this post by saying what you all are thinking – I haven’t written in awhile. I won’t apologize for it as there probably wasn’t much you missed these past few months anyway! For weeks I was wracking my brain saying  “I need to get back to blogging” and so I tried to think of something interesting to write about. I like to write about a lot of things; advice, travel, well –being, all the common blog stuff, but the sad thing is lately I find I am becoming less and less interesting. Don’t feel bad for me, I still have fun, but I’m certainly not the life of my own party or anything.

Do you ever come across people — either friends or family that constantly have crazy stories, like, insane stories that you would see in a movie and think WTF, how do these things happen to them? Not that I need the drama, but a good story is a memory that lasts a lifetime. But then I’m crazy to want funny or odd things to happen to me because that’s just looking for trouble that I don’t really need. What’s better?

This sounds horrible but a friend of mine was kind of mugged once and it was the funniest story ever. She literally turned around and someone had a clown mask on in broad daylight and grabbed her bag which she clung onto for dear life. Then she somehow was rescued by a young man and his Chihuahua who chased after him. I know I sound like a horrible friend to think that is funny but my friend was dying laughing the whole time she told me! So you see, something as traumatic as being mugged turned out to be a hilarious story that I still remember even though it was years ago.

I certainly don’t think I need to be THAT interesting. I’m not going to go to the rough side of town and hope I get mugged for a funny story, NO. BUT I feel like I’m an old lady with my life already passed by.

University was exciting but I was ill and not in the best social mood. I know it sounds silly that I’m so hard done by by having mono but I literally had the worst case scenario and for years was sick and didn’t know why or what was wrong. Hard to believe it was just the kissing disease, but here I am healthy and definitely not dying so for that I feel fortunate. Don’t let that deter you from kissing anyone though as most people have mono for a month and it’s kind of nice to have an excuse not to go to class (when it’s just mono for the month not 2 years).

Sweden was cool, and yes very interesting. I miss it all the time. Living in a residence with 10 guys and 1 girl certainly has strange and funny stories to go with it. They put bars on the windows towards the end of our stay because people in our residence were running on the roof tops. My roommate and good friend wrote the residence committee a letter referencing Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets because he felt like Harry when the Dursley’s put bars on his window and he couldn’t go to Hogwarts. Seriously though, isn’t that a fire hazard? We could have been trapped without a way out because of those bars. I guess they somewhat took the letter of our conditions seriously because a year after I left the residence was sold and turned back into offices (and nicely renovated and probably met health code).

So now that I live in a new apartment with just one roommate (my fiancé)it’s quite low key. Not that I mind relaxing, but I’m in my twenties and I need to have fun.

SO to be productive and kick start this be interesting quest, I looked up “How to be interesting” on the world wide web.

This is what it came up with:

  1. Don’t be boring

Well jeese, what a good place to start. Am I already failing at this? I have no idea if I bore people or not. The people in this article who said don’t be boring say to be brief and be positive. Well, I’m not being very brief in this blog post and positive, well, I can do better with that. Sorry if I bored you with this post and didn’t seem that positive.

Moving on

  1. Be a good listener

The people who wrote this article that people who are good at captivating others have good listening skills. I’m working on this all the time. It’s tough to listen especially if someone is being a pompous dumb ass but oh well at least you can try.

  1. Talk about the other person’s interests

I have done this in the past, and once while I was studying abroad 2 Swedes said I asked too many questions and basically said I was annoying. We were on a school trip, I knew no one and we were sitting at a restaurant eating supper facing one another. Are we supposed to just sit there and chew silently? By the way don’t think all Swedes are reserved, it just was those two on my trip to Prague that had issues speaking to anyone. My other Swedish friends were very friendly. Anyway, some may call it nosy, I just say I am interested in other people’s stories. Hence why I hear these awesome stories from other people all the time. So I think I’m pretty good on this one.

  1. Have 3 good stories

Hmmm, this is already an issue. Something to work on.

  1. Be charismatic

I think I’m okay here. I’m a bit too passionate with everything and anything so maybe with this I can tone it down.

  1. Be somewhere interesting

Well dang. I live in a small town so this is hard to do. Maybe I should start a band so I can tour the world. Maybe it’s time to move to New Zealand like I’ve always wanted to do.

  1. Embrace your innate weirdness

Not sure where I fall on the weirdness scale, but this is very cool. Own your quirks people! That’s what will make us interesting.

Hopefully these tips have helped give you some insight as they have me. Life is short so they say so it’s up to us to make our own lives interesting. Another mono perspective way of thinking!

If anyone has any interesting things to share, please do so in the comments!

For further reading on this, see these articles:

http://www.forbes.com/sites/jessicahagy/2011/11/30/how-to-be-interesting/#190751744039

http://theweek.com/articles/450572/7-ways-most-interesting-person-room

http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Interesting

Winning The Mental Health Lottery

Everyone dreams of winning the lottery, right? I know I do! Just imagine all the things you could do in life if you won that 55 million jackpot? If you’re reading this, like me, you are probably thinking about all the things you would want to do. Pay off debts, buy amazing properties and maybe even quit your job and travel the world. The sky is the limit! Of course money can’t truly buy happiness but it certainly can change your life… that is if you buy a ticket. Many people say – “what’s the point? I could buy tickets my whole life and never win”. Well you certainly won’t win if you don’t purchase a ticket at all! It’s funny how the brain works.

This concept faces me every day but it certainly isn’t just lottery tickets making feeling skeptical. From time to time I get down, I feel worried and stressed and sometimes for no reason at all. What makes me feel good about it is that others too go through this, but the thing that makes me feel hopeless is, what do I do to get over this hump? I’ve done the late night stress eating, the sleeping for hours, not connecting with friends and family, feeling dread for the next day not knowing what awaits. Where did it get me do you think? Continuing these detrimental cycles? No where. So what’s next do you think?

Mental health is a tricky thing. Anyone going through it knows how awful it feels to be in limbo land of emotions where there is no light at the end of the tunnel. I felt that way for awhile, but then one day I became fed up and said no more, what can I do to help myself? And from that moment on I did everthing in my power to feel the best I could and figure out the best coping skills that worked for me when I did feel like times were tough again. But the key word was ME. I read books, I saw professionals, I found support, but it was MY determination and perseverance that got me there. I always look for new things that are out there it never ends, and if you’re reading this now you can seize this day right now and do something anything that will help yourself get over this rut. The struggle is still there but it’s comforting to know you are doing everything you can to make yourself better.

If you’re lying in the dark with the blinds closed, open those curtains and let the sun shine in. Start taking advice your doctor and read that book on mindfulness. Call your local gym and set up an appointment with a trainer to have a workout plan. Play tennis, go swimming, stroll the mall, do an activity, talk to your friends and family again. Even if it’s the last thing you want to do, do it. It’s what you need to do.

If you catch yourself thinking “what’s the point of doing anything?  I probably will always feel like this” than you are most likely going to continue feeling that way. We need to push ourselves and find what works for us. Accept what you feel, know it’s not permanent and ask yourself “what do I want to feel right now” and go from there.

We won’t always have the answers as to why we feel the way we do or how to stop it, but we still need to live our lives. Once I found determination and perseverance I won the lottery. It’s time for us all to buy that ticket.

I’m Busy and Tired

“I am so busy and tired!”  Do you ever get irked when people say this? Apparently many people are irked after seeing Jillian Michaels post about being tired because according to their comments they are just as or if not more tired than she is and how dare she say such a thing. When I read this I could not believe how a harmless venting session turned into a “my horse is bigger than your horse” situation.

We all have different stories and things happening in our life and of course someone’s plate can become a bit heavy at times it doesn’t give someone the right to shame someone else. Everyone has their own problems and struggles and no one should be able to tell someone off for expressing their own daily frustrations and struggles. What happened to compassion guys? When we have had a hard day we usually are hard on ourselves most, why in the world do we need someone else contributing to that fire?

I definitely get frustrated at times when friends say they are too busy to hang out but yet I try to have compassion and understand what they are going through and have no judgement. We are not the same person. We handle our schedules differently and I cannot expect someone to think and act exactly as I do as that is not realistic.

Everyone’s problems are their own. Whenever you start to feel judgement coming out of you, stop and think. It still happens to me from time to time as of course as we humans have opinions, but what I do is take a step back and realize – to each their own. We can’t decide that someone is not struggling as we may not know the full story.  Recognize that that person is suffering and have compassion no matter how rude they are being because usually when someone is a bully or judgemental, they most likely suffer inside for some reason.

Before spreading hate, remove yourself, take a walk in their shoes and have compassion. It has helped me to feel more positive and happy in my life; a feeling I will never get tired of.

How to handle your past, present and future for a happier you

When I think of the past, present and future, three things (or movies I should say) immediately come to my mind: The Lion king, Groundhog Day and A Christmas Carol. Random yes, but very significant. The Lion King tells the story about a young lion named Simba who has a painful past who learns to accept it. In Groundhog day there is a man who is stuck living the same day on a loop needing to re examine his life and priorities.  Lastly there is a Christmas Story, which shows us how a bitter old miser transforms into a kind, gentle man.  What is the common theme here? They all represent how the past, present and future has an effect in making or breaking a person.

These realities encompass our everyday lives. The past is where we’ve come from and what we’ve done, the present is who we are now and the future is who we want to be. Putting it that way makes it seem simplistic, but overall these three realities can be troublesome to everyone.  Here are tips on how to handle these three realities and how to live a happy successful life.

Your PAST

  1. Let go

The past definitely plays a huge role in our life as it’s our story. It dictates where we came from and what we’ve been through. Although it’s your story, it shouldn’t define who you are now. Having memories and mementos is nice but if you are constantly looking to your past in a negative regretful way you will never be at peace. The past is done, it cannot be changed. This is why it’s important to accept it and move on.

  1. Learn from your mistakes

The wonderful Nelson Mandela said “I never lose, I either win or learn”. This is something we all need to keep in mind when we make mistakes. Things may never go our way and we may make bad decision in our lifetime but we shouldn’t feel guilty or constantly think about the mistakes we’ve made. The important thing is to learn from it and move on.

  1. Have self-compassion

We are all human which means we are not perfect. We make mistakes all of the time, but in addition to learning from our mistakes we must have self-compassion for ourselves.  Everyone is always concerned about treating others well but then they forget about ourselves. We are our own worst enemy at times and forget to cut ourselves some slack.  Yes loving others is important but we need to love ourselves first.

Your PRESENT

  1. Live in the now

People are always reading about how they can be happy in the future, but the truth is you can be happy right now in this moment .  Life is what we make it, so why not live in the present and truly enjoy every moment without worrying about the past and future.  Mindfulness is an important practice everyone should encompass in their everyday lives. I highly recommend reading books by Thich Nhat Hahn as he has great insight on how to be mindful in everyday activities and how to truly live and be happy in the present.

  1. Don’t take anything for granted

Be grateful for what you have. Hyman Schachtel said “Happiness is not having what you want but wanting what you have” and this is so true. We often take for granted what we have because it becomes part of our daily routine, but it is important to stop and appreciate all of the things you have instead of focusing on what you don’t have. It will truly change your outlook and allow you to be more positive

  1. Applaud yourself for who you are now

We’ve come a long way to be who we are today. Sure we haven’t been perfect but there must be times that we have succeeded and overcome obstacles. Applaud yourself for your success and be happy about who you are. If you’re not happy about who you are, look for ways to change.

Your FUTURE

  1. Write down your hopes and dreams

We all have dreams, and by writing them down allows us to plan for our future with the hope of making our dreams a reality. One way people do this is write a bucket list of all the things they want to do before they’re 100. I highly recommend doing this with another person, it always makes for a good conversation!

  1. Set goals

Goal setting is very important for everyone to do. Without concrete realistic goals to achieve we can put ourselves in a rut. Instead of a New Year’s resolution for the year, have 1-3 goals you want to achieve each month. You can even try to have a long term goal but the key with goals is you need to have a deadline and they need to be realistic. Keeping a journal or your goals and tracking your progress is helpful.

  1. Be organized

 

You can’t accomplish everything all at once, but by being organized and having a plan you can be successful in achieving your goals and dreams. Look to others to help keep you motivated, and look for opportunities as they arise.  If you’re organized you will more likely accomplish your goals and reach your full potential. You don’t want to look back on your life regretting what you did not do, so plan now and organize your life and your priorities. You will be happy you did.

 

We all come from different backgrounds and have different experiences but all and all we all want the same things, a happy fulfilled life. Simba, Phil Connors and Ebenezer Scrooge all found a way to accomplish their goals and find success and we can too. It’s all about changing perspective and taking advantage of all opportunities that come our way.

Challenge Accepted (and accomplished) : Goal Achievement Part I of infinity

How many of you know or remember the show “The Weekenders”? If you don’t know, this was an American Disney animated television series that centered on the weekend life of four seventh graders: Tino, Lor, Carver and Tish. This show recently popped into my mind after setting my monthly goals. After realizing that New Year’s resolutions do not stick, I decided to research and achieve monthly goals as they are known to be more beneficial. As soon as I thought about doing this I remembered a particular episode of the Weekenders when the teens go to a motivational speaker who is 12 years old. He had gotten very successful at the age of 8 (or something) and became a young entrepreneur. With his odd demeanour he told the crowd in order to be successful you had to 1) Pick a goal and 2) work work work work! (exact words). So with that in mind, I set out to do so. After choosing my said goals I soon realized I had set a major undertaking. Ten goals was maybe a wee bit much. Nonetheless I had set them and I was going to stick to them. Oh my.

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Me looking very sheepish about my goals 

  1. Stay offline 1 day per week

This was tough. If you have seen my twitter you will know why this one was hard for me. I am constantly reading online articles as I love to broaden my perspective so staying offline without access to my buzzfeed dog GIFs was hard. I only was able to accomplish this a couple times (not counting the internet I have to use at work). I see the idea behind it. We all spend too much time in front of a screen instead of doing other more meaningful activities so I think instead of cutting out internet it may be good to just put the phones and computer down and actually go outside and enjoy nature. When I lived in Sweden I went for a nature hike every day for an hour, it was so good for the soul. I’m getting back into that again after doing this experiment.

 

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  1. Read 20 pages of a novel per day

This was one I really wanted to get into. Like all students, we study for years and years and by the time graduation comes we do not want to look at a book ever again, regardless of the topic. Or if we do, we can’t get passed the first chapter. I was definitely in that state until this month. I made it my priority to go to the book store and find some books I have really wanted to get into. It was so nice to finally be able to read and stay focused and interested. I bought Mindy Kaling’s books and they are such a good read. A very good starting point for someone like me. I needed something engaging, light and entertaining and Mindy Kaling definitely hits home. I highly recommend her books (she has 3) and if you’re back from your nature hike I recommend her show The Mindy Project, it’ll change your life. Oops…I’m supposed to be reading, dang it. Baby steps.

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I would love for all my books to be able to lay open while I read them so I can also eat nachos

  1. Exercise 4 times a week

Okay I’ve been a bit of a crazy with the whole fitness thing. I joined the local YMCA and started going to the gym but could only get there about 2 times a week. Not bad, but not great either. I really want to get in shape for my friend’s wedding this year and also my wedding as well next year so 2 days a week would not cut it. I stepped it up a notch by going to a trainer so they could make a plan for me, and that was a great success! I enjoy having a plan for when I go to the gym and I feel less self-conscious because there are others that go who have the same trainer as me and we all do the same silly looking lunges and breathing techniques. We cool.

To change up my exercise regime I added in some recreational sports which has been so much fun! I took up tennis recently and it’s a lot of fun. I’m hoping to develop my Serena Williams like grunt by the end of the summer. I have also signed up for softball which starts in May. I’m practicing my Bautista bat flip as we speak.

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don’t let them fool you

  1. Eat more veggies

Ugh, this one was dreadful. Nothing makes you more hungry than munching on gross raw veggies, but apparently they are the most nutritious. I much prefer cooked veggies but sometimes it’s not feasible for every meal. Off I went to the grocery store to buy as much as I could. Some of them I had never even heard of. My fiancé doesn’t help matters as I will pull lettuce into the cart and he will look at me funny and say “what’s this? What’s la-tooch-eh?” Thanks babe for having my back.

The only way I seemed to really enjoy lots of veggies was by making a stir fry. Stir frys are so delicious and nutritious especially with a little tzatziki on the side. I even got to make a garlic shrimp and chicken recipe which is now one of our favorites.

The lesson learned here was you aren’t always going to like what all those stick models are eating these days, but don’t cut out too much and eat just celery all day. It has to be a balance. Veggies are an important part of a diet and healthy lifestyle, but everything in moderation. You have to learn how to prepare foods the way you like, so that you will actually enjoy what you’re eating. Look up various recipes and start experimenting!

 

See below for my tasty stir fy:

Shrimp and Chicken Stir Fry

 

Ingredients

  • 6 tablespoons margarine
  • 3 cloves garlic, mashed
  • 1 pound medium frozen cooked shrimp,
  • 1-2 chicken breasts cooked
  • Few dashes of salt
  • 1 1/2 tablespoons minced parsley
  • Red, green, yellow pepper
  • 2 cups white rice
  • Tzatziki (as much as you want)

 

Directions

 

In one pan, cook chicken breasts until they are well done. In a separate large skillet, Heat 2 tbsp. margarine over medium heat. Add garlic; cook for 2 minutes. Add in peppers and sauté for 3-4 minutes. Add shrimp and 1/2 tsp. salt; cook over medium-high heat for 4 minutes. Off heat, stir in remaining margarine and parsley and chicken. Cook rice in separate pot and add to stir fry once it is done. Serve with Tzatziki sauce. Enjoy!

 

  1. Send cards and letters to family and friends

I am working on this, I am so sorry friends and family. I will hopefully get my act together and send my favourite people their well-deserved cards and letters written under candle light and sealed with wax. If only I had an owl that could deliver it quickly like in Harry Potter. A howler would be my style because people say I yell when I talk. Stay tuned all.

 

  1. Create photo albums

Okay, I’ve realized that printing photos is very expensive. This I think will be a gradual process.

 

  1. Watch positive documentaries

 

This was really hard to get into at first, especially if you are trying to find a good positive documentary on Netflix. They are all mostly depressing ones. The worst part is the descriptions of the documentaries because they are so brief you have no clue what it’s about. I saw one with the description that said and thought “Oh this might be nice”. Instead it was about people who were physically impaired from getting hit by drivers when they were texting. Hell no. I really wanted something uplifting so no way was I watching Black Fish.

 

I ended up finding a couple neat documentaries everyone should check out. I watched Twinsters first which is on Canadian Netflix at the moment. Oh my gosh the cutest twins I’ve ever seen in my life. I want to be friends with them. It’s about two Korean twin sisters who were separated at birth and adopted. One girl was adopted by a family in United States and the other France. The story shows how they find each other and how their lives change. I highly recommend it.

 

The other documentary I watched was called Happy. It basically talks about happiness and how to be happy and shows some of the happiest places on earth. It was very uplifting. A must watch.

 

  1. Go swimming

I did really well with swimming at the local pool in the fall, but have not been able to make it this winter and early spring. I much prefer swimming in the lake or ocean as there is no schedule to tell me when I can and cannot swim, but yet again then I have to deal with sharks, jellyfish and leeches. The YMCA it is!

 

  1. Read more about Buddhism and the Buddhist perspective

I have recently been introduced to Buddhism by a friend of mine and have wanted to read more about it. I recently discovered the teachings of Thich Nhat Hanh and his books are absolutely incredible and life changing. I highly recommend all of his books (though  I have yet to read them all). Reading his books have helped me to be less stressed, live more in the present and truly enjoy every moment life has to offer and not take anything for granted. I encourage you to read his books.

library

this is what I look like when I find out the library book I want is checked out

  1. Go to the library and check out books

The library in my town is awful. It’s closed on Sundays and closes at 5 most weekdays. I can never get there. I wish chapters had a library version, that way you had access to way better books with multiple copies rather than being on the wait list for a book. I just want to read Pretty Little Liars without having to wait six months, is that too much to ask!?

 

All in all I think I did pretty well on this major undertaking. I realized having ten goals a month is too much, so I think I will limit to 3 per month so it is more attainable. I hope you all have set goals for yourself, because it will really make a huge difference in your year, and by the time New Year’s come you can reflect on all the great things you have accomplished. Seize the day! Our time is now.

Until next time 😉